I have realized........
That if things have not gotten better by this age odds are they probably won't.
That I cant remember why she was so important to me.
That it does not pay to do the right thing every time.
That real friends can fight with you but cant stay away forever.
That my children are my Happiness and my Despair all rolled into one.
That the skin around my eyes seems to be drooping more these days.
That my tolerance is diminishing.
That the system does not work for everyone.
That taking responsibility for not only myself but others can be to much.
That I am more depressed than I want to admit.
That I miss you my one true friend.
That love stories are just that.... Stories.
That I don't have a closer relationship with my family.
That all in all I will never meet my own expectations.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Monday, November 7, 2011
Life
Well much has changed in my life as of late, my oldest son has come to live with me, I am very happy that he is here but suffering a bit from the stress that it has added in my life, However I am thankful that he seems to be taking a better attitude about school and so far has not gotten into to much trouble for a fifteen year old,
Now that's not saying that he is perfect, far from it, He has been in trouble a couple times, I have laid out the rules and punished accordingly and he has responded well, His grades are lacking a bit but they are better than what he was getting in moses lake, thank god, it will just take a little discipline and retraining to get him into the habit of things.
I do have to say that he has really stepped up to the plate as far as taking on his responsibilities around the house even going so far as to do his chores without me asking plus doing a few new things that he did not do before such as laundry and cooking, Of course I would imagine that the new girlfriend has something to do with the cooking part considering that I came home from work today and he was attempting to make her dinner, Sweet, So I helped him, he wanted to make chicken and rice with peanut sauce so I taught him how to do that.
I'm so thankful that he is here with me, funny though the moment he showed up people started calling me Mr. Ulbricht...... Not sure how I feel about that..... Makes me feel old...... and considering I'm coming up on my 35th birthday it doesn't really help...... Been feeling the pressure allot lately, but then if I think about it my whole life has been under pressure so whats new......
Now that's not saying that he is perfect, far from it, He has been in trouble a couple times, I have laid out the rules and punished accordingly and he has responded well, His grades are lacking a bit but they are better than what he was getting in moses lake, thank god, it will just take a little discipline and retraining to get him into the habit of things.
I do have to say that he has really stepped up to the plate as far as taking on his responsibilities around the house even going so far as to do his chores without me asking plus doing a few new things that he did not do before such as laundry and cooking, Of course I would imagine that the new girlfriend has something to do with the cooking part considering that I came home from work today and he was attempting to make her dinner, Sweet, So I helped him, he wanted to make chicken and rice with peanut sauce so I taught him how to do that.
I'm so thankful that he is here with me, funny though the moment he showed up people started calling me Mr. Ulbricht...... Not sure how I feel about that..... Makes me feel old...... and considering I'm coming up on my 35th birthday it doesn't really help...... Been feeling the pressure allot lately, but then if I think about it my whole life has been under pressure so whats new......
Friday, May 20, 2011
what do you think?
I have been taking the training course for a new job I just started and yesterday our whole class was kicked out of class an hour early because of something that was said by one of the students. OK here goes... Ready for it..?? She said the word nigger knocking, now I can understand how that could be offensive to people, me personally I was not offended by this statement as I am smart enough to know that she was talking about something that most of us have done in our childhood and not making a derogatory statement about any person/persons. Now here is the issue........
Our instructor apparently is extremely sensitive and proceeded to turn bright red in the face, I actually thought he was going to explode for moment. Then he tells us to log out and go home, he vilified the whole class for the action of one. Now for a little back story.....
Our class has alot of "Type A" people in it so as a consequence it is a much more demanding class. The majority of the class are all competent learners and are ambitious as well. The part of the class that is slower is slower to an extreme that if our instructor takes 45 min to explain a simple item to one person (which happens regularly) the rest of the class becomes bored, we lose focus, and the result is that we chat and joke with each other. There have been several instances where language has been an issue and maybe the subject was not the most appropriate for a class room setting.
Here's the problem
Our instructor is placing the blame on the class, when in actuality he is also responsible for this, it is policy to write up someone who breaks these rules and yet he has not done it. In my opinion he should have put his foot down from day one and set a standard right from the beginning, not pussy footed around the issue for four weeks and then finally be an ass about it because its gone to far. They use the phrase "Own the problem" Well I don't think that he is "Owning" his problem. I don't believe that it was right to penalize the whole class for the actions of one. Yes other people in the class laughed, myself included, but for myself i laughed at the shock from hearing it said. I tend to laugh when I get anxiety or become nervous as I am sure other people do. So now we have to go into class today and I'm sure we will talk about it, which what good with that do? Basically we are going to class today to be spanked as a group because we are bad children, Or is it just bad parenting from our instructor?
Our instructor apparently is extremely sensitive and proceeded to turn bright red in the face, I actually thought he was going to explode for moment. Then he tells us to log out and go home, he vilified the whole class for the action of one. Now for a little back story.....
Our class has alot of "Type A" people in it so as a consequence it is a much more demanding class. The majority of the class are all competent learners and are ambitious as well. The part of the class that is slower is slower to an extreme that if our instructor takes 45 min to explain a simple item to one person (which happens regularly) the rest of the class becomes bored, we lose focus, and the result is that we chat and joke with each other. There have been several instances where language has been an issue and maybe the subject was not the most appropriate for a class room setting.
Here's the problem
Our instructor is placing the blame on the class, when in actuality he is also responsible for this, it is policy to write up someone who breaks these rules and yet he has not done it. In my opinion he should have put his foot down from day one and set a standard right from the beginning, not pussy footed around the issue for four weeks and then finally be an ass about it because its gone to far. They use the phrase "Own the problem" Well I don't think that he is "Owning" his problem. I don't believe that it was right to penalize the whole class for the actions of one. Yes other people in the class laughed, myself included, but for myself i laughed at the shock from hearing it said. I tend to laugh when I get anxiety or become nervous as I am sure other people do. So now we have to go into class today and I'm sure we will talk about it, which what good with that do? Basically we are going to class today to be spanked as a group because we are bad children, Or is it just bad parenting from our instructor?
Thursday, March 3, 2011
~Westboro Baptist Church~
My friend Grace and I were talking yesterday and we were discussing this news article about the Westboro Baptist Church and the fact that the supreme court had ruled that they were within their rights to viciously picket funerals of military officers. The argument is that because of our freedom of speech they are allowed to attend funerals and hold signs that state such things as "God hates the U.S.A./Thank God for 9/11" and "Thank God for Dead Soldiers." The church's strategy is to stage protests at high visibility funerals, drawing media attention and gaining a platform for their views. The family of slain Marine Matthew Snyder sued church members for intentionally inflicting emotional distress after they picketed at his funeral. As appalling as most Americans would find these protests, the Supreme Court in an 8-1 decision found that the picketers could not be successfully sued because the protests were protected by the First Amendment. This information is found in the article which I have provided a link for, http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_exclusive/20110302/pl_yblog_exclusive/courts-ruling-in-funeral-protest-case-restates-first-amendment-principles
Here are the key factors in the courts decision in the Westboro case.
1-The protests were on public property and concerned public issues: The church members stood on public land a thousand feet from the church where the funeral was held. As hateful as the signs were, they addressed such topics as homosexuality in society, military policy and alleged misconduct by the Catholic Church. All of those subjects are matters for public debate.
2-The protest was peaceful: While government can't punish free speech, it does have the power to limit disruptive actions. The picketers never stepped on the church property or engaged in violence. Instead, they sang hymns and read from the Bible.
3-The protesters followed the rules: Governments cannot limit what we say, but they can control where we say it. Regulations can be put in place to control the "time, place and manner" of protests as long as all points of view are treated equally. This gives states the right to say how closely protesters can come to a military funeral, and a majority of states have passed legislation to do just that. In this case, the picketers notified authorities in advance and followed all police instructions.
My Thoughts~~~~
1. Yes they were on public property but I fail to see how any of their issues are relevant to any funeral, even if it is a military funeral, or the funeral of a homosexual that has been bashed, funerals are not public venues and to violate another person in such a manner is definitely not a christian value nor do I believe it was intended by our forefathers to be interpreted in such a fashion. Considering that we came to America in search of relief from oppression you would think god fearing Christians would have the simple decency to respect another human being.
2. About as peaceful as it could be I suppose but how peaceful are those signs, I mean really??
3. The question here is Why are there rules? It just shouldn't be permitted, yes rally and picket your jobs, the government, or whatever your little "christian" hearts desire but a funeral, Really?! We pride ourselves on being the most advanced species on Earth but sometimes I wonder about that what with the atrocities that we visit upon each other. I grew up in a christian home, attended 18 years of Sunday's, Wednesday's, and days in between. and not once did I hear that god or Jesus told us as Christian's that it was our place to judge anybody. Actually if memory serves me correctly i believe that we are told NOT to judge others but to lead by example.
My question to Westboro Baptist Church is, What kind of examples are you setting??
and Is this what Jesus would do?.
Here are the key factors in the courts decision in the Westboro case.
1-The protests were on public property and concerned public issues: The church members stood on public land a thousand feet from the church where the funeral was held. As hateful as the signs were, they addressed such topics as homosexuality in society, military policy and alleged misconduct by the Catholic Church. All of those subjects are matters for public debate.
2-The protest was peaceful: While government can't punish free speech, it does have the power to limit disruptive actions. The picketers never stepped on the church property or engaged in violence. Instead, they sang hymns and read from the Bible.
3-The protesters followed the rules: Governments cannot limit what we say, but they can control where we say it. Regulations can be put in place to control the "time, place and manner" of protests as long as all points of view are treated equally. This gives states the right to say how closely protesters can come to a military funeral, and a majority of states have passed legislation to do just that. In this case, the picketers notified authorities in advance and followed all police instructions.
My Thoughts~~~~
1. Yes they were on public property but I fail to see how any of their issues are relevant to any funeral, even if it is a military funeral, or the funeral of a homosexual that has been bashed, funerals are not public venues and to violate another person in such a manner is definitely not a christian value nor do I believe it was intended by our forefathers to be interpreted in such a fashion. Considering that we came to America in search of relief from oppression you would think god fearing Christians would have the simple decency to respect another human being.
2. About as peaceful as it could be I suppose but how peaceful are those signs, I mean really??
3. The question here is Why are there rules? It just shouldn't be permitted, yes rally and picket your jobs, the government, or whatever your little "christian" hearts desire but a funeral, Really?! We pride ourselves on being the most advanced species on Earth but sometimes I wonder about that what with the atrocities that we visit upon each other. I grew up in a christian home, attended 18 years of Sunday's, Wednesday's, and days in between. and not once did I hear that god or Jesus told us as Christian's that it was our place to judge anybody. Actually if memory serves me correctly i believe that we are told NOT to judge others but to lead by example.
My question to Westboro Baptist Church is, What kind of examples are you setting??
and Is this what Jesus would do?.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Court backs decision to bar Christian foster couple Mr and Mrs Johns said they could not tell a child homosexuality was an acceptable lifestyle Continue reading the main story Related Stories Foster pair 'doomed' by gay views Foster bid refused over 'beliefs' A decision to bar a Christian couple from fostering children because of their views on homosexuality has been backed at the High Court.
There was a story posted on facebook that dealt with some issues of discrimination. This article is about a christian couple in Derby London that was denied an application to be foster parents because of their beliefs on Homosexuality. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-12598896 , http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england/derbyshire/7264318.stm
I agree with the courts ruling in that we must protect the children. If we allow children to go to homes where there is discrimination of any kind we as a society are condoning that discrimination. I was raised in a strict christian home and I know full well what is taught to the children in the church and it is discrimination. I discussed this with my good friend and she has different views. She does not see how that is discrimination and put the argument out there that it is better than placing kids into homes that advocate homosexuality but beat the kids and I agree to a point. She also said that in the articles Mrs. Johns did not say that she would tell the child that homosexuality is wrong so it would appear that the subject just wouldn't come up. I do not agree, as a child that was raised in a christian home I have to tell you everything comes up, and that was one of the first things, I was taught at an early age that homosexuality is wrong and that those that practice it are sinners and going to hell along with the Mormons, Catholics, Jehovah Witness's, and many other people who might have a different belief system. The thing I find the most ironic is the fact that the couple is black. You would think that of all people they would not advocate discrimination of any kind.
It would appear that most christian have forgotten what being a christian is about. It is not your place to judge others and tell them they are wrong. Jesus said to lead by example, and accept all even sinners. Did the Christians of the world forget that Jesus was friends with Mary Magdalene? A common whore yet he treated her the same as everyone else. As Christians it is not your job to tell people they are wrong and sinning but to lead them down the right road by example.
So......... As I said before I do agree with the courts ruling on this subject and the thing that made up my mind was this statement made by Mrs. Johns " She said: "They asked 'what would you do if a child came home at the age of 10 and said to you that they've been picked on because they're homosexual?' 'Do you know you'd have to tell them it's ok to be homosexual'?
I agree with the courts ruling in that we must protect the children. If we allow children to go to homes where there is discrimination of any kind we as a society are condoning that discrimination. I was raised in a strict christian home and I know full well what is taught to the children in the church and it is discrimination. I discussed this with my good friend and she has different views. She does not see how that is discrimination and put the argument out there that it is better than placing kids into homes that advocate homosexuality but beat the kids and I agree to a point. She also said that in the articles Mrs. Johns did not say that she would tell the child that homosexuality is wrong so it would appear that the subject just wouldn't come up. I do not agree, as a child that was raised in a christian home I have to tell you everything comes up, and that was one of the first things, I was taught at an early age that homosexuality is wrong and that those that practice it are sinners and going to hell along with the Mormons, Catholics, Jehovah Witness's, and many other people who might have a different belief system. The thing I find the most ironic is the fact that the couple is black. You would think that of all people they would not advocate discrimination of any kind.
It would appear that most christian have forgotten what being a christian is about. It is not your place to judge others and tell them they are wrong. Jesus said to lead by example, and accept all even sinners. Did the Christians of the world forget that Jesus was friends with Mary Magdalene? A common whore yet he treated her the same as everyone else. As Christians it is not your job to tell people they are wrong and sinning but to lead them down the right road by example.
So......... As I said before I do agree with the courts ruling on this subject and the thing that made up my mind was this statement made by Mrs. Johns " She said: "They asked 'what would you do if a child came home at the age of 10 and said to you that they've been picked on because they're homosexual?' 'Do you know you'd have to tell them it's ok to be homosexual'?
"I said, I can't do that. My Christian beliefs won't let me do that.
"I would try and assure the child the best I can and tell them... I am a Christian and I don't believe in homosexuality but I can give you as much love and security as I possibly can."
Honey all that love and security isn't going to do jack if that child is made to feel like the bully is right about his sexual orientation. And you making the statement that you don't believe in homosexuality is just reinforcing the bullies actions.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
WTF
What is it that makes a man, if indeed that is what you call him, treat the woman that he loves like trash? I mean come on the girl works Two jobs to your one, which you don't even work that much at and you have the nerve to yell at her because the dishes are not done. Where exactly is she supposed to find time to do that when she works three doubles a week plus single shifts all week at both jobs? Do you not realize that you would have nothing without her? No car, No nice place to live, no money. While you sit your ass at home for most of the week what do you do?? oh i know, nothing, well other than sitting on your ass thinking of reasons to yell at her. She deserves better than you are giving her. You constantly yell at her that she isnt ready for having a family or life for that matter but are you? I'm sorry that it hurts your ego that she is the bread winner in the family but why dont you do something about that? Go get a real job, one that can actually support your family? then maybe she could quite one of the jobs and be a better housekeeper but untill then you should just shut up and accept that the only reason you are not where you want to be in life is because of yourself and the actions you have made or lack there of. The reality is that as long as she is working two jobs it is your responsibility to keep the house and children in order. Stop Being an ASS!!!!
oh and if I judged people the way that you want me to judge a certain friend of ours I would never have been your friend because nobody had anything nice to say about you. I choose to judge people on their own merrits not what others say about them.
oh and if I judged people the way that you want me to judge a certain friend of ours I would never have been your friend because nobody had anything nice to say about you. I choose to judge people on their own merrits not what others say about them.
A thought on Nursing homes, Particularly Extendicare facilities
I have been working as a Certified Nursing Assistant for 11yrs and have had the great displeasure of working in several facilities owned and operated by Extendicare. I am outraged and sick that our state is letting this company continue on in business. I first started working for Extendicare at a facility called "The Gardens" located in Spokane WA, at one point during my two year employment at this facility I walked in for my daily shift and was informed that I had 50 residents that were my responsibility for the day. On average an aid has 8-12 resident to take care of in an 8 hour period and you barely have time to get everything done for each resident. Extendicare has just over 20 facilities in Washington, Oregon, and Idaho, Only one of these facilities is above a one star rating and its located in Oregon. Their other facilities are constantly on state watch and receive fines and tags almost on a monthly basis. Here is a link to some reviews of the Extendicare corportation, http://www.glassdoor.com/Reviews/Extendicare-Reviews-E6048.htm. This is a link to the Medicare website where you can compare nursing homes in your area, if you look for extendicare facilities you will find that my earlier statement about the star rating is true. http://www.medicare.gov/NHCompare/Include/DataSection/Questions/SearchCriteriaNEW.asp?version=default&browser=Chrome|9|Windows+Vista&language=English&defaultstatus=0&pagelist=Home&CookiesEnabledStatus=True
This is a website that gives you a rating on the nursing home of your choice, http://www.memberofthefamily.net/registry/wa.htm
note that Extendicare Facilities are on the national watch list look for these names
Evergreen Nursing and Rehab Center
Franklin Hills Health and Rehab
Gardens on University
The stats on these nursing homes is the "Norm"
rating for most of Extendicares facilities. Please consider this and choose wisely when placing your loved one in a care facility make sure you research all aspects of that facility.
This is a link to the national watch list for nursing homes, if the home you are considering in on this list you should reconsider your choices.
http://memberofthefamily.net/usmap.htm
This is a website that gives you a rating on the nursing home of your choice, http://www.memberofthefamily.net/registry/wa.htm
note that Extendicare Facilities are on the national watch list look for these names
Evergreen Nursing and Rehab Center
Franklin Hills Health and Rehab
Gardens on University
The stats on these nursing homes is the "Norm"
rating for most of Extendicares facilities. Please consider this and choose wisely when placing your loved one in a care facility make sure you research all aspects of that facility.
This is a link to the national watch list for nursing homes, if the home you are considering in on this list you should reconsider your choices.
http://memberofthefamily.net/usmap.htm
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